Why people on the internet are delusional!

I am doing my normal internet reads today. I start with twitter and am entertained by the people I follow. My favorites are all the tattoos that are posted by some of the best tattoo artist in the world. In addition, it is way to keep track of what my friends and fam are doing on a daily bases.

Next I head over to The Facebook (I really like the original name) for more indepth look at where people are doing and what they are ranting about today. One friend has an interesting exchange with another friend about the difference between disrespect and racism. Another friend also posted some anti Obama administration rhetoric which is annoying, but not all together inappropriate. I know these people and know their views and it is my decision to be friends with them, so it is all good.

Next I check emails, personal before work. Priorities!! Read my daily offering, add them to my mental wish list like the 5 day trip to Paris on Living Social or those cute Jimmy Choo sandles on Rue La La. Then check out work emails, just a quick scim. Take care of anything I can take care of quickly. Then I am on Yahoo.com for my news. Read complete stories that interest me like today there was an interesting item regarding Facebooks investors and them going IPO. Thought is was very interesting that Mark Z will retain 28.2% of the company. Why is it so important to include the .2%, why not round it up? Well that .2% is projected to represent over $200 million dollars. It is all relative.

The last thing I do is a google search on whatever I happen to be obsessed with at the moment. It can range from self publishing to tattoos (big surprise there) to restaurants I want to eat at to the people who I want to know. It is usually among these searches that I discover more examples of why people on the internet are “delusional.”

It occurs when a person holds a conversation with the virtual world and spits out their opinion on people and/or place that they have never meet/been to or seen. I am not talking about blogs or post, I am talking about the comments that follow after. I won’t link to the specific article, but you can google it yourself if you are so inclined.

My latest obsession is Michael Voltaggio. They are replaying season 6 of Top Chef. He recently opened a much anticipated restaurant in LA called ink. and I am excited to try it.

Now, I do a google search to see if he is still married and how his kids are doing since it was mentioned very briefly in his Wikipedia page that he was recently divorced. Innocent search, Is Michael Voltaggio married? It took me to a chat sit where people had a conversation about this very subject. He is married, he is separated, he is divorced, she lives in Florida with the girls. Then it turned into, he is an arrogant ass who cares more about his career then his family, she supported him and now that he is successful, he dumped her, he went on top chef and she cheated on him, but he probably cheated on her. She is a saint who worked as a nanny to support him and his daughters and was verbally abused during the marriage of 10 years. It just went on and on.

I am readying all of this and then I discover that the person who is fueling all this negativity is the wife’s sister. What in the world? What was she trying to prove? What did she hope to accomplish? It all seemed so bizarre that a person would even waste her time to go on this random chat site to defend her own sister from the opinions of virtual strangers. It is delusional that she would every dignify that ridiculousness by responding.

And, what about her sisters privacy and her nieces who don’t need help from auntie to create an impression on their own father. Now, don’t get me wrong. I am all about standing up for what you believe in and the internet gives people that opportunity to do that, but let’s keep in perspective people. I can go on and on about people I don’t know and give my opinions on people I have never meet. I try to keep it positive, but I just don’t find it even necessary to try and defend people I do know because no one is every going to have the perception of that person the way I have.

I have a friend who is famous and I know him very well. Very close to him and his family. During a time in his life, he did something that he wasn’t proud of and fully admitted that to us, his family. But, when the general public made their opinion known about what he did thought television, internet and radio. It would just pist me off. They all had this opinion of him that was so far off base. I want to call in and let the world know that they were wrong about him. But, I couldn’t do that. It would not have been appropriate. In defending him I would have had to make public a relationship and a family that I hold dear to my heart and it was not worth it. It didn’t matter what others thought of him because it had no effect on how I feel about him or what kind of person he is.

So, my message to Keri Adam’s and her sister, take care of yourselves. The opinions on the internet don’t mean shit in your day to day life.

For those who think they will change the world by spouting your opinion on a random chat site or comment on everything your read, create, write, share something original and see how you feel when random people comment on it. If it is positive, it makes you feel good, but if it is negative let me know how it makes you feel.

For me, my goal for 2012 was to maintain PMA – Positive Mental Attitude. It is a constant work in progress. I know that my little blog will not change the world. My only hope is that i can continue to offers people a glimpse into what makes me happy and it’s a bonus to me if it makes you happy, too.

We’re All Doing The Best We Can – Mike Robbins

Huffington Post – December 26, 2011 – Link tweeted by Pink

I’m sometimes amazed and embarrassed by how critical I can be — both of other people and of myself. Even though I both teach and practice the power of appreciation (as well as acceptance, compassion and more) when I find myself feeling scared, threatened or insecure (which happens more often than I’d like it to), I notice that I can be quite judgmental. Sadly, as I’ve learned throughout my life, being critical and judgmental never works, feels good or leads me to what I truly want in my relationships and in my life. Can you relate to this? I’ve recently been challenged by a few situations and relationships that have triggered an intense critical response — both toward myself and some of the people around me. As I’ve been noticing this, working through it and looking for alternative ways to respond, I’m reminded of something I heard Louise Hay say a number of years ago. She said, “It’s important to remember that people are always doing the best they can, including you.” The power of this statement resonated with me deeply when I heard it and continues to have an impact on me to this day. And although I sometimes forget this, when I do remember that we’re all doing the best we can given whatever tools and resources we have, and the circumstances and situations we’re experiencing, it usually calms me down and creates a sense of empathy and compassion for the people I’m dealing with and for myself. Unfortunately, we tend to take things personally that aren’t, look for what’s wrong, and critically judge the people around us and ourselves, instead of bringing a sense of love, understanding, acceptance, forgiveness and appreciation to the most important (and often most challenging) situations and relationships in our lives. When we take a step back and remember that most of the time people aren’t “out to get us,” purposefully doing things to upset or annoy us, or consciously trying to make mistakes, disappoint us or create difficulty (they’re most likely just doing the best they can and doing what they think makes the most sense) — we can save ourselves from unnecessary overreactions and stress. And when we’re able to have this same awareness and compassion in how we relate to ourselves, we can dramatically alter our lives and relationships in a positive way. Here are some things you can do and remember in this regard:
1.) Give people the benefit of the doubt. Most of the time, people have good intentions. Many of us, myself included, have been trained to be cautious and suspicious of others, even seeing this as an important and effective skill in life and business. However, we almost always get what we expect from people, so the more often we give people the benefit of the doubt, the more often they will prove us “right,” and the less often we will waste our precious time and energy on being cynical, suspicious and judgmental.
2. Don’t take things personally. One of my favorite sayings is, “You wouldn’t worry about what other people think about you so much if you realized how little they actually did.” The truth is that most people are focused on themselves much more than on us. Too often in life we take things personally that have nothing to do with us. This doesn’t mean we let people walk all over us or treat us in disrespectful or hurtful ways. (It can be important for us to speak up and push back at times in life.) However, when we stop taking things so personally, we liberate ourselves from needless worry, defensiveness and conflict.
3.) Look for the good. Another way to say what I mentioned above about getting what we expect from other people, is that we almost always find what we look for. If you want to find some things about me that you don’t like, consider obnoxious or get on your nerves — just look for them, I’m sure you’ll come up with some. On the flip side, if you want to find some of my best qualities and things you appreciate about me, just look for those — they are there too. As Werner Erhard said, “In every human being there is both garbage and gold, it’s up to us to choose what we pay attention to.” Looking for the good in others (as well as in life and in ourselves), is one of the best ways to find things to appreciate and be grateful for and we remember that not everything is about us all the time.
4.) Seek first to understand. Often when we’re frustrated, annoyed or in a conflict with another person (or group of people), we don’t feel seen, heard or understood. As challenging and painful as this can be, one of the best things we can do is to shift our attention from trying to get other people to understand us (or being irritated that it seems like they don’t), is to seek to understand the other person (or people) involved in an authentic way. This can be difficult, especially when the situation or conflict is very personal and emotional to us, however it is one of the best ways for us to liberate ourselves from the grip of criticism and judgment, and often helps shift the dynamic of the entire thing. Being curious, understanding and even empathetic of another person and their perspective or feelings doesn’t mean being in agreement with them, it simply allows us to get into their world and see where they’re coming from — which is essential to letting go of judgment, connecting with them and ultimately resolving the conflict. 5.) Be gentle with others (and especially with yourself). Being gentle is the opposite of being critical. When we’re gentle we’re compassionate, kind and loving. We may not like, agree with or totally understand what someone has done (or why), but we can be gentle in how we approach it, talk about it and engage with them. Being gentle isn’t about condoning or appeasing anyone or anything, it’s about having a true sense of empathy and perspective. And, the most important place for us to bring a sense of gentleness is to ourselves. Many of us have a tendency to be super judgmental of ourselves. Sadly, some of the harshest criticism we dole out in life is aimed right at us. Another great saying I love is, “We don’t see people as they are, we see them as we are.” As we alter how we relate to ourselves, how we relate to everyone else and to the world around us is altered in a fundamental way. As the Dalai Lama so brilliantly says, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” Everyone around us — our friends, co-workers, significant other, family members, children, service people, clients and even the people we don’t know or care for — is doing the best they can, given the resources they have. When we remember this and come from a truly compassionate perspective (with others and with ourselves), we’re able to tap into a deeper level of peace, appreciation and fulfillment. Mike Robbins is a sought-after motivational keynote speaker, coach, and the bestselling author of Focus on the Good Stuff (Wiley) and Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken (Wiley). More info – www.Mike-Robbins.com
**I wanted to copy the entire article in my post, but make sure Igive credit as well. I really needed to hear this this morning. God speaks to me through Pink!!!!! Smile!!

PMA

Positive

Mental

Attitude

Another inspired by my main man Luke Wessman. HAHA

I read tweets for inspiration on how I want to live. This is probably the most focused tidbit to live by. PMA – Positive Mental Attitude! A positive mental attitude can set you up right in every situation. Wake up – PMA, decide what to eat – PMA, go to work – PMA, someone is mean to you – PMA, have to work late – PMA, go to the gym – PMA, is this really what I should be doing with my life – PMA, go to bed – PMA, sweet dreams – PMA.

Just keep PMA in your mind in every thing you do and you will changed your course in life. I am going to try it in 2012 and see what happens!! Greatness is on the horizon. I can taste it.

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