Insecure Writer’s Support Group – Try, Try, Again

I didn’t like the way I did it the first time, so I did it over again. – Sydney Aaliyah Michelle


Another month, another insecurity and another IWSG post. 

Our hosts this month Chemist Ken, Suzanne Sapseed, and Shannon Lawrence. If you get a chance, please show them some support along with all the other members of the support group who you can find, here

I’m starting to feel like everything about this business is trial and error. I try something and if it doesn’t work, I try something else. What works for one author doesn’t necessarily work for me.

I’ve been a published author for ten months now and I have wasted a lot of time, a lot of money and a lot of sleepless nights and  while I have learned a lot. There is still so much I don’t know and it is frustrating.

Don’t get me wrong, I am proud of what I have accomplished and I am incredibly blessed to be a writer. It is my passion. No matter how frustrating it can get at times, I can’t imagine not doing it, but more often than not, I feel like I am just throwing darts at a board praying for something to stick.

Do you ever feel like this? Does this feeling every go away? 

Look forward to hearing everyones thoughts.


14 thoughts on “Insecure Writer’s Support Group – Try, Try, Again

  1. Sure, I think all business and the pursuit of any dream is like this. Solid planning and preparation helps, but you can’t afford not to take chances and daring steps now and then. The fire of of passion can keep you going, but persistence will get you there.

    Arlee Bird
    A to Z Challenge Co-host
    Tossing It Out

  2. Sydney, I find myself growing steadily in confidence as a writer–but becoming more and more aware of my cluelessness as a businessperson. I have no idea what I’m doing. Does anyone?

    Just thank my stars I get to write.

  3. Unfortunately, I’m still learning. And it’s not just that what works for others won’t work for you, but the whole landscape changes and what worked last year won’t work this year. Just keep flinging spaghetti against the wall and see what sticks.

  4. Oh, goodness! Yes, I feel this way. I’ve got a complete MS that I’m polishing and putting into a couple of contests, but I know I’ve got to get my behind to a few conferences. Thinking of all th3 $$$$ that will take, makes me breathless. But, I’ll do it. Twice in September, no less. lol! The things we do for our brain babies! 😉

  5. I don’t know exactly what you are talking about because I haven’t gotten that far yet. I do understand needing to get to things and not having money to get there. I think it’s great that you have the flexibility and persistence to keep trying again if something is not successful. Thanks for stopping by and good luck from a IWSG blog hopping friend.

  6. Throwing darts and hoping they will stick seems a pretty apt description of a writer’s journey to me.

  7. Hi Sydney,

    Man, how I wish I could tell you this gets better! My book comes out in May, but even with blogging, I haven’t been able to figure out what works and what doesn’t. And there’s different advice and opinions every way you turn. Some people say blog everyday, others say twice a week, others say once a week, and still others say only blog when you have something earth-shattering to say.

    It’s beyond frustrating! All you can do is your best. Persistence is key. You will find your people. (And when you do, tell me how you did it, okay?)

  8. I’m still learning as well. There’s just so many things for us to do in this writing business. And it’s not just writing. Most we can do is learn from trial and error and persist, persist, persist. Write, write, write.

  9. My writing has taken a backseat at the moment with more pressing projects ongoing, but I feel exactly the same. Sometimes I feel like I’m drowning trying to keep on top of everything. But you know what, whatever the activity, it will come out alright in the end 🙂
    IWSG Co-host in March 🙂

  10. Yes I have felt like this and yes the feeling has gone away, only to return again if I keep doing the same stuff over and over or rather, stay with the same goals, objectives and/or projects. Basically, unless I do something else, the feeling remains. I often feel like I’ve wasted lots of time and more money on filmmaking and all that comes with that industry and pursuit of a finished project, an audience for said project and the return of funds that would allow me to make another project.

    Now it’s all about focusing on what brings me a sense of joy or satisfaction…and unfortunately, film hasn’t always been it. It seems like it’s among the things that bring me more stress and heartache than other stuff. What I try to remember, regardless of what I’m working on (a film, a screenplay, a writing exercise, fitness, nutrition, recreational activities, etc.) is that money can be replaced. Time, on the other hand, is not something we can replace. It’s like that scene in “Changing Lanes” where Ben Affleck is trying to use his job and money to fix an accident and Samuel L. Jackson isn’t biting. Instead, Jackson wants to know “Can You Give me my TIME back?!! Can you do that?!” and I feel like that with a lot of things that I’ve engaged in over the last 6-12 months or so.

    The thing is, you sound like someone who doesn’t give up. You just look for another way, which I think is the only way that keeps a person from getting overwhelmed with disappointment or feeling like their efforts are in vain. There’s no one-size-fits-all path or an instructional manual for the things that mean the most to us. We just have to find a way that works for whatever it is we want to accomplish.

    Cheers to you for trying. That’s better than sitting on the sidelines wondering “what if” and never knowing. 🙂

  11. Yeah, and I’m terrible at darts.

    But I don’t think it’s a dart board. And I don’t believe in that kind of randomness. I think everything we do, every struggle is working towards something. It’s a growing, learning process and it will pay off. Because it’s meant to. Because if you keep throwing darts, statistically you’ll hit the target 🙂

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